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Thinking of becoming a natural hair diva?

Hey beauties,

i penned this down a few years ago but never got around to sharing, i still think its valid and thought to share, by the way lovelies, i am back and better !

One of the reasons i decided on having this blog is to help other ladies like myself who want to groom their natural hair to do so…throughout the course of my journey i will be sharing photos, experimenting with my self and my hair, and promoting healthy hair and body/mind development tips with other naturals, i hope also to be able to share my natural experiences with my natural friends, i figure that by so doing we will get to our destinations faste and easier, ever heard the saying ” walk alone and you ll walk faster walk together and you will walk farther”?

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Our Natural hair is our heritage, our gift from the creator..it ought to be well cared for like every other parts of our body.to do this we need to change our mindset,change our perception that Natural hair is ugly, difficult and unmanageable..that is misguided information that we have been brought up with. it serves us no purpose other than to make us conform to obnoxious standards and definitions of beauty.

Yours truly ,

Lolo

Bling O!

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A little of this, a little of that

You will agree with me that many countries are facing economic challenges, times are changing, life is becoming tougher from how we have always known it to be.

How did it become like this i have asked myself severally, One moment i am playing in my parents yard, eating free mango from a tree that we grew by ourselves, and then the next i am in a big city , buying these same mangoes at exorbitant prices, nobody ever told me i would have or need to pay so much for mangoes , or drinking water or fresh veggies…these things i thought i would always have around me, somewhere at the back of my mind. but alas…

It actually scares me to think of what the future holds for me personally and my kids, and for my country Nigeria in general.

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I see so many flocking out in droves on a daily basis in search of a better future, in search of security, be that as it may. I feel its all a wild goose chase. Is there really a better or secure future else where?…really?

I know many African countries are going through similar situations, it may not be exactly the same hyperinflation or instability, but there is always something! Political crises, humanitarian crises, religious /ethnic wars.. it doesn’t seem like the rest of the world is left out either. Its the Human Condition. we can’t escape from it, but we can thrive irrespective of it and thrive we must.

So, my resolve is to stay where i am and do what i can, to the best of my ability … i might lose or i might win but there’s no giving up. So much is stacked up against us but i also believe in the strength and triumph of the human spirit , in faith , hope, love and justice.-

My hope is that the universe will reward my efforts and the effort of everyone who truly and genuinely works hard, that we may reap bountifully in all seasons.

Much Ado About Hair???

An argument ensured a couple of years back between several groups on Social Media on natural hair , It was so such a revealing something eh, One group that can be labeled as anti-natural- hair was shouting at the top of their voices about how it’s ”their” hair and they can choose  to wear it in whatever way  they want blablabla, while the other group that was pro-natural insisted that  irrespective of the fact that its your hair, your originality gets lost with weaves, wigs which are not typically African… Whewwwww!So In fact while one group saw the need to uphold the African hair status and identity, the other was in fact stating the obvious which is ‘’ hair don’t make a person, a person makes the hair’’.

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Do I agree….?  Off course I do, in fact I totally agree and with the benefit of hindsight, with the anti-natural hair group, that your hair sould be your business alone, no one should dictate how it should look but the owner at any given time!  Which is why it still bothers me that this is still a reoccurring  topic of controversy in the western world where Blacks/African Americans are sometimes required to tame their hair to fit into the corporate world or  fashion industry????? when you look at it , that is a form of control and it’s not even subtle ; insisting that  a person’s hair must look a certain way  for the person to fit in. It’s completely absurd.But then come to think of it, why is there so much dramas and politics on the issue of hair, skin colour, looks etc. It’s because these things are fundamentally important in the scheme of things, Up there!  Your hair, natural or not is your identity, so is your skin colour, at least on the surface .it does in fact define you to the extent of who you choose to be, and this is because hair is versatile, especially black hair.80% of people you meet on the streets black or white , Asian or African , have done something to enhance their hair and its appearance, things like; bleaching, tinting, relaxing, straightening, curling,  conditioning,  these are all  modern techniques to make you look  good or better  than your previous self. So, if you choose to keep it natural, I quite agree that it’s your cup of tea!

 if you want to have it weaves it should also be your prerogative as well. I believe that what’s important is the image you want to create to your audience, bearing in mind that we are all creatures of sight more that anything else.

For me , I did the natural look for 5 years then  got bored with it, I have had my hair relaxed and straightened within the last 2 years , now its cut in a pixie-cut style and I intend to lock it as soon as I get bored with it! Don’t judge me or judge me, not my problem. It’s my journey, my story, which I own the rights to just as you do yours, I recognise that it’s a phase, life is in phases.  What will make me happy?  Is, to think that in future I will be understood as someone who lived life on her own terms and in different phases. Afterall It is only Hair.

Oh My Gosh, I am sooo Back!!!

Dear Queen,

Its been like forever! Oh my Gosh I am soooo Back!  the last time i made a post i was all gingered up and felt it was time to roll up my sleeves and begin writing, sharing my thoughts with you in earnest, but then nature  or should i say baby came calling?, i found out i was a month pregnant and now i have a beautiful baby boy, he came on the 21st of August just 1 week fro his older sisters’s birthday, i was so elated to say the least, i was over the moon because this was what i asked for, a Son.

The reason i wanted a son, which i kept repeating to my dh was basically because  i wanted to have a male pespective of the World, now looking at the world through my son’s eyes have literally changed me, my thought processes and how i respond or react to issues in general! That boy literally melts my heart whenever i look at him, its undescribable !. We named him Olurotimi  , his name has a deep meaning  for us and I pray that as it implies,  he grows up to be greater than us, fully aware of his Godness and valuable to the World.

My cherished Queen, this has been my journey so far, i do hope life has been kind to you as it has been for me these past months. i do hope you are keeping safe and staying healthy as we wade through the dark waters of this pandemic called Covid? . I believe the first key to survival is to stay positive, then all other things can follow, No one fully understand what is going on, but we  hope it will be over soon and we can get back to our normal lives and routines soon, though we all knows its never going to be the same again.

In the midst of all this , the lockdown in my country has availed me the time time to recalibrate , and decide  what i want for my self in terms of  personal development  goals my career, our family goals,  its all coming together my friends, one good thing to come out of this situation for us is hubby and i had a lot of bonding time, family time, and i hope it was same for you. 

I will  be posting more regularly especially during the christmas holiday , there’s lots to share and i am eager to share with you my discoveries  while i was on Awol. 

Blessings Queen  and Catch ya later!

Glad to be Back !

Dear Coily Curly Queen,

My life has been a rollercoaster of activities since the last time l posted here in 2015, From pregnancy, to having my beautiful baby girl ( who is now 3yrs old by the way) to switching jobs, to learning more about myself and my hair, Mixing motherhood and a full time job is not for the faint hearted you know, Although l do find it interesting at the same time…. never a dull moment! but it can really suck the life out of you if you aren’t careful.

I can literally count on my fingertips the number of times i have had to myself to do a body bath/ scrub, it used to be a part of my monthly body care routine,but that was ages ago..hahaha, these days l just rush in and rush out from the bathroom, besides l now have my very own personal body guard who loves to follow me everrrrywhere.

Its truly amazing!

In the course of these 3 years l have had the opportunity to see things from a fresh point of view and made certain decisions that might be seen as drastic, one of these was the decision to straighten my hair, Yas, i put the white cream on it ! please dont judge the judge. lol

Why did i do it? did i go crazy or what? Was i frustrated with my hair ? …A colleague of mine nearly fainted when l appeared at work in the newyear of 2018 all creamed up.. lol, no, not now ? i mean really? you choose to do this now, when the natural hair campaign has began to see the light of day, making significant progress all over the globe?. These days everyone has or is going natural you see, it makes no sense!

Well, I intend to tell you all about the why in my next post, do stay tuned.

2014 in review

I’am Impressed at what i,ve done so far, thanks to everyone who has made it possible , i hope to build more on this in 2015, Have a lovely year all around NaturalHeiresses!

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Virgin Coconut Oil is so great , you just have to learn to make your own!

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Dear Beautiful Curly Coily Hairess,

I’m going to talk about a product that is ‘Au naturel’ and most useful in our everyday life and hair grooming, The COCONUT OIL. Now we all know is that coconut oil is good for you, Period, That’s undisputable…. but how so?

Well, apart from its exotic culinary uses, virgin Coconut oil is known to be good to your facial skin, body , it even helps with weight loss. Plus because of its high saturated fat content Coconut oil is slow to oxidize and, therefore resistant to rancidification, meaning it has a long shelf life of up to 2 years!

Virgin coconut oil is recognized as one of the best kept secrets responsible for the long healthy hair in Indian women #Fact!

Be rest assured that the benefits of this amazing oil is worth the effort put in making it.I have been on several escapades with this amazing oil, personally, and even though l says so, it’s no mean feat. Patience is key.

There are three known methods of extracting the oil; The Wet –milling method, Boiling method and Cold pressing Method. I‘ve tried all except the cold press (which is in fact meant for larger quantities), but prefer the wet milling process, any day anytime, because the oil practically comes out as is in the fruit, boiling kind of takes out that advantage, more so, wet milling is as close as you can get to cold pressing, which is why i recommend it.

Both methods (Wet milling /Cold pressing) ensure that minimal heat is used in production of that quality Coconut oil you need for your hair, face and body. .

To make your own Wet-milled Virgin coconut oil you will need:
1) At least 3 coconuts (to get anything reasonable from it)
2) A cheesecloth/ white handkerchief
3) Two neat bowls (one with a tight lead)
4) and a blender/ food processor for crushing.
5) A sterilized jar for storage
6) 1 Knife, 1 grater

How to do;

Step 1: Simply grate your coconuts (after taking it out from its shell), if you do not have a grater then you have to slice into small pieces (this takes more time though). When you have grated the meat share into 3parts measuring with your eyes , then toss the first into a blender or food processor adding a little water enough to help it move ( two or 3 twirls is enough) .. Do the same for remaining two parts.

Step 2) Pour out the contents as you blend into a neat bowl (it will look bit milky /watery ), when you are done, Take out your cheese cloth/handkerchief, Place it over the bowl with a lead and pour in the blended coconut ( again in small parts) hold the ends of the cloth together and squeeze the milky juice into the bowl , squeeze as hard as you can to get all the milky juice out , leave the empty shafts in another bowl ( if you like) , I usually throw mine in the bin.

For the purpose of demonstration I’ve randomly chosen photos from google.

When you are done, this is how it will look.

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Keep in a cool or dark place for about 5 – 6 hours; you will notice that the water and the milk have separated in the bowl looking like the pics above.

Your coconut oil can be found at the top layer so don’t be discouraged, it is mixed with the curd , but not so easy to spot right now hence it has to go into the fridge for another 2/3 hours for solidification. This is what it will look like when it gets out.

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Now pretty, scoop out the solidified juice (with a plastic spoon) into an air tight container/jar, leave beside a hot cooking pot or by the window in the sun (I usually do that). After a while you will see the clear distinction between the curds and oil. The oil settles beneath leaving the curds on top, scoop out the curds with your plastic spoon. There you have it, your coconut oil in pure virgin form sans heat.

The outcome should look somewhat like this…

Colour perfect coco

The boiling method is basically the same, only difference is, when you have squeezed out the milk from the shaft, all that is left to do is pour the juice into a pot and boil at medium temperature, stirring constantly until it evaporates leaving only the curd, which you then need to pay attention to, cos as it dries on the fire the oil comes out… always leave to cool before pouring into a storage container.

Tops 5 ways to get the best out of your Coconut oil.

It could be used to cleanse our mouth first thing in the morning and last before bedtime, a process known as OIL PULLING, which helps to eliminate bacteria and strengthen gums and teeth.( just take a teaspoon each time and gaggle for 30 minutes).

It is highly recommended for Oil cleansing as well, which is another process of removing excess facial oil, and cleansing it from inside out, leaving for a clearer and even tone, and also as a facial scrub ( mixed with honey).

Coconut oil could also be used for prepping out hair for wash day, a term known as PREPOOING in the natural hair world.

It could also be used separately or mixed with other oils as oil treatment or a deep conditioner.

Whip some coconut oil with Shea butter and use as lotion every day for a clear skin, or use as Deodorant if you are looking to avoid chemicals.

Coconut oil is still being used by indigenous people in many areas of the world especially Asia, and has helped a lot of women folks care for their hair and even earn a living. Click on the link below to see how it’s made locally in Asia using the boiling method!

http://eatingasia.typepad.com/eatingasia/2008/04/diy-coconut-oil.html.

Till next time hairess…I hope you find the courage to try making your own virgin coconut oil, do let me know how it goes if you do. Cha cha!

Effective Haircare Methods You Should Know

Dear coily curly queen,

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How are you and your gorgeous locks doing?, Sorry for my long absence, I have been extremely busy getting married, yes yours truly is now a mrs, and while it feels good to be a mrs somebody i may just be realising the resposiblities that come with it, which are enormous by the way , still struggling to come to terms with the new found role as ‘’Wifey’’, lol.

Anyways, It does feel like a new channel has been open for me, in a way that the african society recognises and likes to use to its own advantage for example, being a married woman in Nigeria gets you respect among the folks, you are automatically elevated to a new status overnight and people will address you different , its very amusing when your suddenly hear ‘Madam ’ from people who called your name directly without permission in the first place, lol, and I get the feeling that its going to be a very interesting ride, which we will be talking about as we go along on this journey.

Now down to the business of the day, we have just gone past the harmattan which is akin to winter in colder climates and are now in the raining season,or spring season if you like, am curious to know how you coped with your tresses during the hamarttan , did you find it easy or difficult to maintain? For me, the weather was so dry here in Abuja that I had a hard time keeping it( still no name yet) moisturised , I did find a way though after so many trials, in fact I discovered 3 methods that worked perfect depending on how often its uses, these methods ensured that my hair was constantly moisturised and did not break unessesarily , we discuss it shortly.

Hey naturalhairess, does your hair feel dry and limp? Does it tangle easily?, are you experiencing breakage or hair loss? Have you kept a weave or braids for long periods at a stretch? Any of these method of natural hair care, included in your regimen will help regain life and shine in your hair.

The Greenhouse Effect Method ( GHE) : This means applying natural oils or butter to hair and covering with a shower cap and a scarf before going to sleep or simply wearing both for a long period of time, This method aims to grow hair from the scalp directly by creating a sort of steamy, warm environment for your hair just like is done with plants! it aims to stimulate growth using the natural sebum produced by your scalp, It is reasoned that with the cap on for longer hrs than the usual deep conditioning time, the heat created will help increase blood circulation retains moisture, which will in turn prevent breakage or hair loss. How smart is that? Lol, sounds weird but studies have shown that it is quite effective at facilitating hair growth as well as moisture retention. Below is a video to practice with if you like.

elohor 302 I used cling film in this pics.

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This could also work..

Oil Rinse Method ORM: Involves coating your hair in a huge amount of oil( any type of oil will do) right after washing /shampooing , allowing it to sit for about 10 / 20 minutes before rinsing of with lukewarm water , and proceeding to condition as usual finally rinsing with cool water. Its is a most recommended treatment for dry hair, having used it myself on and off, on several occasions. It is also very effective in combating single strand knots.

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Protective styling : Any style that will leave your hair ends well tucked in, moisturised protected from the natural elements and manipulation free for a long period of time is refered to as protective styling, it could be in form of twists, braids,buns or flat twists. Do take note that this doesn’t involve extension braids and weaves as they ultimately to do the opposite in practice.

The above two methods are totally different in application ancd will be effective in various conditions, If you are a homebody, a stay home mom, or someone that works from home the Greenhouse Effect will work perfect for you because it means you can keep your hair tied up for longer period, while the oil rince method will serve if you have little time on hands, work an 8-5 like me, and have a tight schedule.

As you know, in the natural hair world once a method works for you it becomes a keeper. My hubby would say “why change a winning team”?, there is no point reinventing the wheel if it works, its sounds cliché, I know, but there’s truth in it, these methods saw me through the most “drying periods” of my hair’s life and have now been included in my monthly regimen, I’ve tested and tried them that’s how I know they are effective,but hey , it doesn’t have to be harmattan or winter time for you to try them, our hair goes through different phrases at different times, its very important to keep track and know when to apply any of these methods, for example, hair that is just 3-4 inches long old is obviously easy to maintain and doesn’t need a protective style, its already low, and maintenance is all it requires is to be constantly moisturised and properly hydrated.

While a long haired natural who constantly battles with dry ends, tangling or fiery knots would need to oil rinse every now and often to prevent split ends and breakage. Its all about attentiveness dearest.

My next post will tackle caring for your hair in heat and humid weather which is what we are presently experiencing in this part of the world.

Till then, chacha curly, and keep being kind to that beautiful mane of yours.