Glad to be Back !

Dear Coily Curly Queen,

My life has been a rollercoaster of activities since the last time l posted here in 2015, From pregnancy, to having my beautiful baby girl ( who is now 3yrs old by the way) to switching jobs, to learning more about myself and my hair, Mixing motherhood and a full time job is not for the faint hearted you know, Although l do find it interesting at the same time…. never a dull moment! but it can really suck the life out of you if you aren’t careful.

I can literally count on my fingertips the number of times i have had to myself to do a body bath/ scrub, it used to be a part of my monthly body care routine,but that was ages ago..hahaha, these days l just rush in and rush out from the bathroom, besides l now have my very own personal body guard who loves to follow me everrrrywhere.

Its truly amazing!

In the course of these 3 years l have had the opportunity to see things from a fresh point of view and made certain decisions that might be seen as drastic, one of these was the decision to straighten my hair, Yas, i put the white cream on it ! please dont judge the judge. lol

Why did i do it? did i go crazy or what? Was i frustrated with my hair ? …A colleague of mine nearly fainted when l appeared at work in the newyear of 2018 all creamed up.. lol, no, not now ? i mean really? you choose to do this now, when the natural hair campaign has began to see the light of day, making significant progress all over the globe?. These days everyone has or is going natural you see, it makes no sense!

Well, I intend to tell you all about the why in my next post, do stay tuned.

Thinking of becoming a natural hair diva?

Hey beauties,

i penned this down a few years ago but never got around to sharing, i still think its valid and thought to share, by the way lovelies, i am back and better !

One of the reasons i decided on having this blog is to help other ladies like myself who want to groom their natural hair to do so…throughout the course of my journey i will be sharing photos, experimenting with my self and my hair, and promoting healthy hair and body/mind development tips with other naturals, i hope also to be able to share my natural experiences with my natural friends, i figure that by so doing we will get to our destinations faste and easier, ever heard the saying ” walk alone and you ll walk faster walk together and you will walk farther”?

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Our Natural hair is our heritage, our gift from the ought to be well cared for like every other parts of our do this we need to change our mindset,change our perception that Natural hair is ugly, difficult and unmanageable..that is misguided information that we have been brought up with. it serves us no purpose other than to make us conform to obnoxious standards and definitions of beauty.

Yours truly ,


2014 in review

I’am Impressed at what i,ve done so far, thanks to everyone who has made it possible , i hope to build more on this in 2015, Have a lovely year all around NaturalHeiresses!

The stats helper monkeys prepared a 2014 annual report for this blog.

Here's an excerpt:

A New York City subway train holds 1,200 people. This blog was viewed about 4,400 times in 2014. If it were a NYC subway train, it would take about 4 trips to carry that many people.

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Virgin Coconut Oil is so great , you just have to learn to make your own!


Dear Beautiful Curly Coily Hairess,

I’m going to talk about a product that is ‘Au naturel’ and most useful in our everyday life and hair grooming, The COCONUT OIL. Now we all know is that coconut oil is good for you, Period, That’s undisputable…. but how so?

Well, apart from its exotic culinary uses, virgin Coconut oil is known to be good to your facial skin, body , it even helps with weight loss. Plus because of its high saturated fat content Coconut oil is slow to oxidize and, therefore resistant to rancidification, meaning it has a long shelf life of up to 2 years!

Virgin coconut oil is recognized as one of the best kept secrets responsible for the long healthy hair in Indian women #Fact!

Be rest assured that the benefits of this amazing oil is worth the effort put in making it.I have been on several escapades with this amazing oil, personally, and even though l says so, it’s no mean feat. Patience is key.

There are three known methods of extracting the oil; The Wet –milling method, Boiling method and Cold pressing Method. I‘ve tried all except the cold press (which is in fact meant for larger quantities), but prefer the wet milling process, any day anytime, because the oil practically comes out as is in the fruit, boiling kind of takes out that advantage, more so, wet milling is as close as you can get to cold pressing, which is why i recommend it.

Both methods (Wet milling /Cold pressing) ensure that minimal heat is used in production of that quality Coconut oil you need for your hair, face and body. .

To make your own Wet-milled Virgin coconut oil you will need:
1) At least 3 coconuts (to get anything reasonable from it)
2) A cheesecloth/ white handkerchief
3) Two neat bowls (one with a tight lead)
4) and a blender/ food processor for crushing.
5) A sterilized jar for storage
6) 1 Knife, 1 grater

How to do;

Step 1: Simply grate your coconuts (after taking it out from its shell), if you do not have a grater then you have to slice into small pieces (this takes more time though). When you have grated the meat share into 3parts measuring with your eyes , then toss the first into a blender or food processor adding a little water enough to help it move ( two or 3 twirls is enough) .. Do the same for remaining two parts.

Step 2) Pour out the contents as you blend into a neat bowl (it will look bit milky /watery ), when you are done, Take out your cheese cloth/handkerchief, Place it over the bowl with a lead and pour in the blended coconut ( again in small parts) hold the ends of the cloth together and squeeze the milky juice into the bowl , squeeze as hard as you can to get all the milky juice out , leave the empty shafts in another bowl ( if you like) , I usually throw mine in the bin.

For the purpose of demonstration I’ve randomly chosen photos from google.

When you are done, this is how it will look.

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Keep in a cool or dark place for about 5 – 6 hours; you will notice that the water and the milk have separated in the bowl looking like the pics above.

Your coconut oil can be found at the top layer so don’t be discouraged, it is mixed with the curd , but not so easy to spot right now hence it has to go into the fridge for another 2/3 hours for solidification. This is what it will look like when it gets out.

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Now pretty, scoop out the solidified juice (with a plastic spoon) into an air tight container/jar, leave beside a hot cooking pot or by the window in the sun (I usually do that). After a while you will see the clear distinction between the curds and oil. The oil settles beneath leaving the curds on top, scoop out the curds with your plastic spoon. There you have it, your coconut oil in pure virgin form sans heat.

The outcome should look somewhat like this…

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The boiling method is basically the same, only difference is, when you have squeezed out the milk from the shaft, all that is left to do is pour the juice into a pot and boil at medium temperature, stirring constantly until it evaporates leaving only the curd, which you then need to pay attention to, cos as it dries on the fire the oil comes out… always leave to cool before pouring into a storage container.

Tops 5 ways to get the best out of your Coconut oil.

It could be used to cleanse our mouth first thing in the morning and last before bedtime, a process known as OIL PULLING, which helps to eliminate bacteria and strengthen gums and teeth.( just take a teaspoon each time and gaggle for 30 minutes).

It is highly recommended for Oil cleansing as well, which is another process of removing excess facial oil, and cleansing it from inside out, leaving for a clearer and even tone, and also as a facial scrub ( mixed with honey).

Coconut oil could also be used for prepping out hair for wash day, a term known as PREPOOING in the natural hair world.

It could also be used separately or mixed with other oils as oil treatment or a deep conditioner.

Whip some coconut oil with Shea butter and use as lotion every day for a clear skin, or use as Deodorant if you are looking to avoid chemicals.

Coconut oil is still being used by indigenous people in many areas of the world especially Asia, and has helped a lot of women folks care for their hair and even earn a living. Click on the link below to see how it’s made locally in Asia using the boiling method!

Till next time hairess…I hope you find the courage to try making your own virgin coconut oil, do let me know how it goes if you do. Cha cha!

Effective Haircare Methods You Should Know

Dear coily curly queen,


How are you and your gorgeous locks doing?, Sorry for my long absence, I have been extremely busy getting married, yes yours truly is now a mrs, and while it feels good to be a mrs somebody i may just be realising the resposiblities that come with it, which are enormous by the way , still struggling to come to terms with the new found role as ‘’Wifey’’, lol.

Anyways, It does feel like a new channel has been open for me, in a way that the african society recognises and likes to use to its own advantage for example, being a married woman in Nigeria gets you respect among the folks, you are automatically elevated to a new status overnight and people will address you different , its very amusing when your suddenly hear ‘Madam ’ from people who called your name directly without permission in the first place, lol, and I get the feeling that its going to be a very interesting ride, which we will be talking about as we go along on this journey.

Now down to the business of the day, we have just gone past the harmattan which is akin to winter in colder climates and are now in the raining season,or spring season if you like, am curious to know how you coped with your tresses during the hamarttan , did you find it easy or difficult to maintain? For me, the weather was so dry here in Abuja that I had a hard time keeping it( still no name yet) moisturised , I did find a way though after so many trials, in fact I discovered 3 methods that worked perfect depending on how often its uses, these methods ensured that my hair was constantly moisturised and did not break unessesarily , we discuss it shortly.

Hey naturalhairess, does your hair feel dry and limp? Does it tangle easily?, are you experiencing breakage or hair loss? Have you kept a weave or braids for long periods at a stretch? Any of these method of natural hair care, included in your regimen will help regain life and shine in your hair.

The Greenhouse Effect Method ( GHE) : This means applying natural oils or butter to hair and covering with a shower cap and a scarf before going to sleep or simply wearing both for a long period of time, This method aims to grow hair from the scalp directly by creating a sort of steamy, warm environment for your hair just like is done with plants! it aims to stimulate growth using the natural sebum produced by your scalp, It is reasoned that with the cap on for longer hrs than the usual deep conditioning time, the heat created will help increase blood circulation retains moisture, which will in turn prevent breakage or hair loss. How smart is that? Lol, sounds weird but studies have shown that it is quite effective at facilitating hair growth as well as moisture retention. Below is a video to practice with if you like.

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This could also work..

Oil Rinse Method ORM: Involves coating your hair in a huge amount of oil( any type of oil will do) right after washing /shampooing , allowing it to sit for about 10 / 20 minutes before rinsing of with lukewarm water , and proceeding to condition as usual finally rinsing with cool water. Its is a most recommended treatment for dry hair, having used it myself on and off, on several occasions. It is also very effective in combating single strand knots.


Protective styling : Any style that will leave your hair ends well tucked in, moisturised protected from the natural elements and manipulation free for a long period of time is refered to as protective styling, it could be in form of twists, braids,buns or flat twists. Do take note that this doesn’t involve extension braids and weaves as they ultimately to do the opposite in practice.

The above two methods are totally different in application ancd will be effective in various conditions, If you are a homebody, a stay home mom, or someone that works from home the Greenhouse Effect will work perfect for you because it means you can keep your hair tied up for longer period, while the oil rince method will serve if you have little time on hands, work an 8-5 like me, and have a tight schedule.

As you know, in the natural hair world once a method works for you it becomes a keeper. My hubby would say “why change a winning team”?, there is no point reinventing the wheel if it works, its sounds cliché, I know, but there’s truth in it, these methods saw me through the most “drying periods” of my hair’s life and have now been included in my monthly regimen, I’ve tested and tried them that’s how I know they are effective,but hey , it doesn’t have to be harmattan or winter time for you to try them, our hair goes through different phrases at different times, its very important to keep track and know when to apply any of these methods, for example, hair that is just 3-4 inches long old is obviously easy to maintain and doesn’t need a protective style, its already low, and maintenance is all it requires is to be constantly moisturised and properly hydrated.

While a long haired natural who constantly battles with dry ends, tangling or fiery knots would need to oil rinse every now and often to prevent split ends and breakage. Its all about attentiveness dearest.

My next post will tackle caring for your hair in heat and humid weather which is what we are presently experiencing in this part of the world.

Till then, chacha curly, and keep being kind to that beautiful mane of yours.

Happy Newyear!

Its a Newyear!!!!, l know..its coming late but better late than never they say. l wish every one of you out there lots of love and happiness in the Newyear.Your hair will grow, strong and healthy and you will live to see it!

looooove you my curly coily friends!

In my Opinion….(response to Why I Revolt Against the Natural Movement)

I thought this was mavelous and very well my sentiments too!


Over the weekend I read an interesting post on It raises a great conversation about the term “natural” in relation to hair.

Why I Revolt Against the Natural Movement by ShannonTBoodram

In the article ShannonTBoodram begins by describing a moment in her life when the “kinky/curly movement had begun to take shape”-and a moment when “bad perms had went out of style”. She describes this moment as a “revolution”. The “…affirmations in her beauty were monuments”. The “revolution shined bright during a time when many of us needed to know.”

She raises some great points of discussion such as the historical context of the word “natural” (applied to mental concepts) and how she sees that word as a way to control and not empower. She feels that there is a sense of entitlement directly derived from the word…”natural” which few of us can live up to.

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Natural Hair Growth: The Stages

Hello there coily curly queen,

What a pleasure to be able to talk with you again after such a long while. how are you and how are you treating that hair of yours? Have you been keeping track of its growth? you may not realise it but that hair is growing but if you do not document the process through pictures and monthly measurements/length checks you will never know for sure. i did a little documentation of my own as its been a while, find the pictures here..
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The stages of growth for our hair are quite a number and we (naturals) have a name for each stage ; The TRANSITIONING Stage, the BIG CHOP AKA BC is when you chop of all your permed hair leaving about 1 or two inches of hair to begin the natural journey, this is followed by the Teeny Weeny Afro stage(TWA) with 5 / 7 inches of hair, there’s also the CHIN length,SHOULDER length, BRA-STRAP length, MEDIUM lenght , WAIST lenght and the list goes on, as you can see my hair has almost reached my chin now so you could say that l’am at the chin length stage. what stage are you at now and how are you taking care of it?

Its important to know what stage you are and styles that are best suited for each, otherwise you could easily get frustrated trying out a style, method or regimen that your hair length is not suited for or has gone passed. it happened to me a lot, I didn’t know that there was an awkward stage and did not understand why my ‘wash and go’s looked different, I often compared with other naturals who by the way were passed my stage, how their hair seemed to fall and felt I wasn’t doing something right, that was until I found out about the ‘awkward stage’: stage between a teeny weeny afro and chin length, this stage requires one to make use of hair accessories, its not a very beautiful stage per se, it requires a lot of creativity to it pull off! Here goes the different stages….

The Transitioner or Transitioning :This is the process of growing out ones natural hair along with the permed hair for a period of time, it could take from 1-8 months but I wouldn’t advise going beyond 8months because of the damage it causes to the new growth, not saying its impossible, one will have to be extra careful to maintain both textures Curlie, Hair styles for this stage should be directed at blending of the two textures while protecting the new growth, it could also be quite annoying.
Suggested styles for this stage include : Bantu knot outs, twists-outs and buns.
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Photos of a Transitioner and her hair.

Big Chop; This is when a curlie chops of all her permed hair to start afresh with about zero to 2 inches of hair, very easy to maintain your hair at this level, only need to keep it clean and moisturised.

Teeny Weeny Afro: The teeny weeny Afro is a welcome stage, here Curlie has at least 3-5 inches of hair to play with, you may begin to do finger twists, twist-outs, braid-outs , etc, but keep in mind this stage is sort a shortlived and after comes the awkward stage but fret not, just go out and get those hair bands, flowers, scarves and any other type of accessories you can find at the store, these could go a long way to ease your stress believe me.
Suggested styles for this stage include: mini puffs twist-outs, bantu knot-outs ,braid-outs, wash n go’s , etc…

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My hair last year June.

The chin and shoulder length stage : This basically means you can put your whole hair in a bun, its longer and can therefore accommodate more styles and manipulation such as : mini pompadours, huge puffs, chunky twist-outs, twist and braid outs, Wash n go at this stage is very tricky, you could get those annoying fiery knots and detangling could become a dreaded thing, however cheer up Curlie it just means your hair is growing!

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The Medium or Bra strap length: This is also known as the third, where your hair must have grown in length and volume, it can do what ever you want it to, but also has its disadvantages such as longer wash days and detangling hours, but its so worth it you may forget so l heard, lol.

The longer our hair is the more time and effort is needed to wash, detangle, and style it so be prepared Curlie Queen, I’m not considering the cost because that is so relative, I personally advocate 90% use of natural/home made product for washing as well conditioning.

In a nutshell Queen, its up to you to do your research, experiment and find out what works best for you and your hair at each stage of its growth rather than sit and whine about how its not acting like hers or hers, don’t forget your hair only works best for you.

Below is a picture I found at Natural hair rules page, showing the different stages;


Till my next post, which hopefully would not be too long from now, Have a great time with your hair this week!

Dear coily curly queen,

pictureellenBe brave be strong, be you.

You are a special gift waiting to be unwrapped, never let anyone tell you different.

The process of growing out your own hair might seem slow and painful but it is worth it in the end.

Remember we were not prepared for this , some of us didnt even know we could do this but here we are, bold daring, trying to do somethi´ng different.

Three important things to remember as we go though this journey Patience, Water, Oil..these three things will not let your hair down.

Have a wonderful week, ciao!